I was was a Tv station this morning and the discussion came about. At what point does one become immoral in her sexual behavior ? According to one of the talk show guest, anyone who enjoys sex a lot could be considered a slut. Whether male or female. Now I understand that there is a double standard between men and women, and a guy could be considered a champ by his peers if he sleeps around whereas it’s not the case for the women. However, I’m sure we would all agree that there are male and female sluts in this world, so at what point does one become a slut? Some of the answers the audience gave were if a guy/girl has had sex with more than 10 people then the person is a slut. As much as this sounds good to some, one has to factor in the age of the person in question. E.g. A 16 year old with a 10 sexual partner history is definitely different from a 40 year with the same count. Another point brought up was that it doesn’t matter how many people u have had sex with, but more so how many you are currently having sex with. E.g it shouldn’t matter if u’ve had 40 sex partners in the past as long as u’re currently just with one person, all is good. However if you’re currently sleeping with 5 or 6 people in the same time frame then you are considered a slut. Other points raised were if one was sleeping with a person already involved with someone else (marriage or relationship), sleeping with someone your friend is dating, or sleeping with one for favors, gifts or money. All these can be considered slutty. Another notion subconsciously goes with the way a person (more so women) dress and carry themselves. I’ve been in situation where a girl in extremely skimpy clothing is automatically labelled a slut based on appearance alone. Obviously I was intrigued enough about this topic and wanted to throw it out to the readers. What is the slut line? (So to speak). At what point does one get labelled a slut? In today’s age of sexual freedom and revolution, is there even such a thing as a slut. I mean, you can technically say if you have sex before marriage, you’re slut which I’m sure some people strongly believe. I’d love to hear the responses, so tell me, when does one cross that line and become a slut (so to speak). Let’s discuss. Add Comment  PING!!! A message comes in and since I am bored I unlock my phone in anticipation of reading a message that would lift my spirits, so I open it and discover its one of these broadcast messages marketing valentine hampers. I hiss so loud my mother asks why. So its that time of the year again, one would think that with the subsidy removal and the hike in goods that people might lay low. Don’t get me wrong I am not a spoil sport but valentine is that one holiday that makes me to crawl under my bed and remain there because of the fuss. I understand that it is a day of love, we keep hearing the story behind the real valentine each year at church. It is a day of expressing love to a loved one. "Now, who is a loved one? It could be parents, brother, sister or even the less privileged but our mentality always refer it as boyfriend/girlfriend matter." As a young man I know how girls save up and buy gifts for their partners, going out of their way to make it as romantic as possible while the men try to pretend its not valentine just to avoid the gifts and the mushiness that comes with it. Sometimes the dude might not even appreciate the effort. Some of them do not know how difficult it is to burn a CD of his favorite love songs, look all sexy and buy a box of chocolate and all the stuff that comes with it. Not attacking the dudes, just making a point. Personally I have never had a romantic valentine not because I haven’t had girlfriends during the holiday but there is always an excuse to be away that day or it just turns out to be a normal day and we celebrate ours a day before or a day after but Its never the same as that day. No regrets there because I have had some of the most memorable valentines. One I remember too well was valentine 2009 where some friends raised money two weeks before valentine celebration that day and went shopping. They bought a bag of rice, cartoon of tin tomatoes,carton of books and more. We spent the night before valentine sharing & packaging these items in small bags to share, not because fourteen girls didn’t have boyfriends but because there was so much suffering around us and if we could make their day by sharing food to them so be it. We wore the valentine color of red and chartered a bus for the day. We went round the city of Jos in Africa sharing food to women and kids, some of these women work and their husbands decide they are the boss and collect the money to go squander it on irrelevant materials leaving their wives and kids hungry and hurting. The men were not also left out that day. These kids in the orphanages have been abandoned. They see you and just keep jumping for joy and are so excited. While you sit with them, they just keep talking about lessons in school and ask you questions, some drag you to their play area just to show you their favorite toy. Others might study you before warming up to you and they are not to blame, people come and go in their life. They might even sing for you, reducing you to tears. There and then you reflect and discover how lucky you are. Now, don’t get me wrong; am not saying you shouldn’t plan that dinner or surprise for your partner, you can always fix it in the evening and still have the time of your life. Spend some time with these people that need that love most, sometimes it is not just about your money but that quality time you spend with them could change one person’s view of life from a depressed state of mind to a hopeful one. No matter what, they will always appreciate your presence. Try something new this valentine and trust me you will always look back and smile when you remember 2012 valentine. Don’t forget it is a day of love, show some love and receive a thousand back. Do have a wonderful and beautiful valentine. This is your new blog post. Click here and start typing, or drag in elements from the top bar.  Raymond Timmy, Africa Hi I'm Raymond, am a Nigerian(Africa) (at the time of writing this) I live in Malaysia Penang....By day I'm a student studying International Business..My main passion is management but i love writing and at times i can think crazy, I'm well-figured with an outgoing personality and love to smile. very sensual, creative,intelligent, and driven by my passions, enjoy theater/art, love to travel, would be empty without music and bored without great conversation.I think the world would be a significantly better place if only we all spent a little more time learning about our place in it.... | Raymond TimmyRaymond is from Nigeria, Africa but lives in Malaysia in pursuant of his International Business studies. He loves to write and at times can think crazily. Well-figured man with an outgoing personality, very sensual, creative, intelligent...read more here... 
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